Ok, so you are thinking that dreaded thought “I think my daughter is pregnant”! What am I going to do?

August 28th, 2010 | Posted in Hurdles, Pregnant Teen by

It is no longer uncommon. Our nation has one of the highest incidences of teen pregnancy and the statistics are not getting any better, in fact, they are getting worse. Girls are now having sex as early as 8 and 9 years old! They watch MTV, commercials, general programming on prime time TV and believe that this is what real life is all about. Their entire self esteem is linked to sex. Now, what do we do about it…?

The United States has the highest rates of teenage pregnancy and births in the western industrialized world. Teen pregnancy costs the United States at least $7 billion annually. Keep reading for more interesting facts on teen pregnancy statistics.

The fact that just under 1/3 of all girls in the United States will get pregnant in their teenage years is a sobering thought. Obviously, teen pregnancy is a problem in the United States. And the following statistics back that up: 

  • Every year around 750,000 teenagers will get pregnant. 
  • Depending on the state, teenage birth rates are incredibly different. Nevada has the highest rate: 113 per 1000 and North Dakota the lowest 42 per 1000. 
  • Unmarried teenagers having children account for 24 percent of all unmarried expectant mothers. 
  • More than 2/3 of all teenagers who have a baby will not graduate from high school. 
  • Billions of dollars are spent taking care of teenage mothers and their children and they are more likely to be in the poverty bracket. On the flip side, millions of dollars are spent in prevention programs.

Well if your child is not pregnant there are a lot of ways to intervene now and make this tragedy less likely, however if she is…you have found the right place at the right time.

There a number of reasons a young girl may find the concept of being a parent alluring. Perhaps she is looking for attention, needs unconditional love she isn’t getting from her family or boyfriend or perhaps she is just searching for some self worth. Regardless of the issues, another one is on the way, and it is a lot bigger than the previous ones…..

But now, this isn’t just your daughter or son’s problem, it is yours as well. Not to mention the unborn child’s.

So how do we handle this delicate situation? The questions are endless and choices are few. I have been where you are, whether you are a teen parent or a parent of a child who is expecting without the lively hood or resources to be a new parent, I get it, I understand.

  • Should I tell my son/daughter what I want them to do regarding the choices?
  • How is my daughter going to get through a pregnancy? She is just a baby herself!
  • What if there are complications? Is she too young to carry full term?
  • Will her health insurance cover the cost of termination/pre-natal care?
  • What about her education? Can she finish school pregnant?
  • What will our friends and family think?
  • Should we consider adoption? Could we live with that?
  • Where will she live, she can barely get up in the morning for class, how will she take care of a baby?
  • How are we going to pay for this? Diapers, formula, baby furniture, a nursery, childcare, education, pre-school, clothes, healthcare.
  • What if there are health issues?
  • What about the father and his family? Will they participate? Do we want them to?
  • We don’t know who the father is! What do we do? How do we go about the legal issues?
  • Have drugs/alcohol been involved during pregnancy?
  • How will she continue to go to school or work?
  • Is it my responsibility to step up and be the caretaker/financial assistance?
  • I didn’t expect to have to do this at this time in my life. Starting over?

The list goes on and on…

There are many things to consider when you yourself become pregnant even in the best circumstances, but when your own child is facing such a huge life change it will affect all of you. You will need help and guidance from a source that is not emotionally charged from the situation. That is where I come in. I am able to see the situation, find solutions and put things into perspective. YOU will have to deal with the situation; YOU must be able to be calm and see the options and make the right choices for your child as well as the grandchild on the way.  This is not easy. Don’t forget we are dedicated to leaving a Legacy 4 Kids- one of Love, Honor, Courage and Grace. I can help you do this even during this very painful time.

If you are looking for help and need resources to help you and your family get through this trying time, contact me today for a FREE 30 minute evaluation regarding both you the parents and your teen and start on the path to peace and grace during this most difficult time.

Acceptance is key. Once you are able to do this, the tasks are clear and solutions will be visible.

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