How do I prevent my daughter from being a teen statistic?

November 22nd, 2010 | Posted in Pregnant Teen by

I get this question quite often. So many of us have been told that sex-ed will stop the huge amount of teen pregnancies in our nation. We as parents are relying on our educators to explain the risk of unprotected sex and the realities of teen pregnancy.

Other parents simply refuse to accept their children are sexually active at such early ages. The truth is, some of our kids are having sex or at least interested in the concept by the age of 8 YEARS OLD! Yes, that’s what you just read, 8 YEARS OLD!

Our world introduces sex to kids at extremely early ages. Everyday and everywhere they turn sex is in their face. A parent cannot even take a child to a mall without seeing explicit ads using sex as a hook. This has changed the game for everybody. It is time we looked up from our computers, smart phones and the TV and acknowledge what our kids are seeing and how are they reacting to it. Do you discuss it with them? YOU SHOULD.

Our children need to be taught that they have a great deal to contribute to this world and they are here on this planet for a reason, and it isn’t to be the prettiest, or the sexiest in their group. Self-esteem starts early, the moment they are brought home from the hospital. Kids are amazing. Their ability to assimilate your thoughts and actions is immediate. It is our job to be the mentors and the leaders from day one.

One of the best books I have ever read for helping both parents and children to develop a healthy self-esteem and to help them understand that they are individuals with a gift and a responsibility to cherish themselves is – The Entitlement Free Child, by Karen Deerwester. I have read this book at least 6 times and I will insist each one of my clients read it as a part of my coaching plan of action  for both pregnant teens and parents of pregnant teens. I believe it should be mandatory for all parents to read this book during a pregnancy. It should be part of the pre-natel care! Our world would become a much better place and parents all around would be breathing sighs of relief.

Again, start looking at your child as someone who has questions and concerns about sex long before it is too late. Be aware of her surroundings and how she sees herself fitting into this world. It is difficult for young girls during adolesance to understand their boundries or self-worth. Remind them they are special, loved and admired for being simply who they are. If they have a goal and plan of action that having a baby does not fit into, chances are they will wait.

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2 Responses to “How do I prevent my daughter from being a teen statistic?”

  1. love all the posts about talking 2 your kids about sex! and excited to read the book you read…very catchy title and very needed.

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