Archive for March, 2011

Caught in the Cradle

Wednesday, March 30th, 2011

Teen Pregnancy from the teen parents themselves! When your babies are raising babies.

Britney Spears on Good Morning America

Tuesday, March 29th, 2011

I just watched this beautiful girl dance (gyrate) and sing the most insipid non-inspiring songs and get huge applause. I don’t know about you, but I don’t want my little girl to admire a young woman who sings songs with the lyrics “I can be your treble if you can be my base…make it bigger, make it bigger”! All while inviting both men and women to her crotch on stage.

She is a beautiful girl. There is no denying that. But is is obvious to me she is still hurt and wounded. Far from being ready to take the stage again. I was terribly disappointed in the performance. I thought it was vulgar and inept.

Come on everybody. I know she has been through a lot, but this is not what we want our young girls to be aspiring to! I thought during her absence in the spotlight she was getting her life back and re-branding herself. Becoming a young women who can prove to others who have made mistakes that you can grow up and be someone to look up to and inspire young women to make a change as well.

Good God, this woman is a MOM! What do you suppose her young ones will grow up to be like. I hope not their Mommy!

Did you get a chance to watch it? What did you think? Would you allow your kids to attend a Britney Spears concert or performance?

Talking With Your Kids

Monday, March 28th, 2011

Certainly we knew there’d come the time for the “big talk,” but who knew we’d be struggling with how to talk to our children about drugs and AIDS, pregnancy and gay relationships, guns and violence at school, and kids who kill other kids.

The world we live in has grown more complex and the media, including the Internet, has swung wide the doors to information and misinformation. Talking with our children about difficult and often disturbing issues has never been more critical.

Here are a few tips to make it easier.

  • It is never too soon to start. Kids are hearing about issues at an earlier age.
  • Don’t wait for them to ask. Just because they haven’t asked about something doesn’t mean they don’t want or need information.
  • Tackle subjects even if you’re uncomfortable. Set aside your own feelings and initiate dialogue.
  • Be open and encouraging. Create an environment in which any question can be asked at any time.
  • Be clear about your values. Children want and need moral guidelines from their parents.
  • Don’t just talk, listen. You’ll get information about how to approach an issue while building your child’s self-esteem.
  • Be straightforward and honest. You don’t have to give all the details, but you do need to be honest.
  • Take time, be patient. Unlike lunch, digesting new information can take time.
  • Don’t wait for the “right time.” Be ready when opportunities arise. Daily life presents many openings for even a short dialogue.
  • Keep talking. Information given in small doses over a period of time is the best way to have that “big talk.”

Questions to Ask Yourself if You Are Pregnant

Friday, March 25th, 2011

1. What do I want out of life for myself?

2. Could I handle a child and a job and/or school at the same time?

3. Have I managed school and/or job and other activities well in the past?

4. Am I ready to give up the freedom to do what I want to do when I want to do it?

5. An example of something I would have to give up by having a child with me is…

6. Am I willing to cut back on my social life and stay home while my friends go out?

7. Would I miss my free time and privacy?

8. Can I afford to support a child?

9. Do I want to raise my child in the neighborhood I am living in now?

10. How might a child interfere with my growth and personal development?

11. How would parenting a child change my educational plans?

12. Am I willing to give a great part of my life – AT LEAST 18 YEARS – to being a responsible parent?

13. Do I like doing things with children?

14. Do I want my child to be like me?

15. Do I expect a child to make my life happy?

16. When I am around small children for a while, how do I feel after being around them?

17. Am I able to give the child the love he/she needs/deserves?

18. Am I patient enough to deal with the noise, confusion, and the 24-hour-a-day responsibility of having a child?

19. What kind of time and space do I need for myself?

20. What do I do now when I am angry or upset?

21. What would I do to a child if I lost my temper or became angry?

22. What does good discipline mean to me?

23. How would I discipline a toddler?

24. Do I get along with my family?

25. How would I take care of my child’s health and safety?

26. Would my child be proud of the person I am today?

27. Am I able to provide an education for my child?

"Inspire to Re-wire"

Thursday, March 24th, 2011

More kids than ever are suffering from depression, anger, ADD, ADHD, eating disorders and a number of other social and emotional issues. Why?

Why are  kids bringing guns to school? Why is violence so acceptable today. Where has the empathy gone?

Have you ever wondered what our world would be like if our kids were not so stressed out.   They are learning each day to function at warp speed. No down time. 

School, TV, Internet, video games and social media keep them so busy they have no inclination to  add a few moments of quiet time to their day.

Today I am so very inspired by the MindUp program. The HawnFoundation is working so hard to get our nation’s schools to adopt and teach our children this curriculim.  Take a look at this video below and let me know what you think.

Would You Qualify?

Wednesday, March 23rd, 2011

Parents Needed, only those qualified need apply: 

Responsibilities:

Daily physical care of the child. This care may change at various stages. At all ages this care will include providing:

• Well-balanced, nutritional meals and assurance that the child eats sufficiently to meet his/her growth needs.

• Clothing and footware appropriate for the season and occasion.

• Shelter that is safe and comfortable.

• Medical care: preventive with annual check-ups and immunizations; responsive when the child is sick.

• Assurance that the child is receiving sufficient sleep to remain healthy and responsive.

• Toileting issues in infancy and toddlerhood. (Frequent, responsive diapering until the child is toilet trained. Assistance and support until toilet training is mastered).

• Nurturing responsibilities include encouragement, comforting, consistency, establishment of a sense of security, dependability, playing, counseling, and loving.

• Discipline issues include understanding and setting appropriate limits for age, consistency of expectations and responses, self-management of anger, being a good example.

• Education issues include providing a traditional education through a school or in the home. Non-academic education includes teaching independent life skills (dressing, hygiene, decision-making, social skills, physical fitness and sports, manners, and responsibility) that are appropriate at each age.

• Moral guidance includes teaching right from wrong and enforcing rules. Monitoring child’s activities to assure they are appropriate, including previewing and at times censoring reading material, television, computer games, movies, and friends. Providing clear and consistent limits for behavior that are age appropriate and that respond to the individual child’s maturity level.

• Spiritual guidance includes instilling in the child a sense of hope and well-being.

• Other responsibilities include: chauffeur, social director, scheduler, advocate, and manager.

Time requirements:

• 24 hours a day, seven days a week until the child can make it on his/her own

• No vacation time

• No sick leave

• Time off only when a suitable substitute has been found                          

Qualifications include:

• Sense of humor

• High self-esteem

• Selflessness

• Emotional maturity

• Financial security

• Dependable support system

• Energetic, trust in judgment

• General understanding of the needs of children

• Diplomatic

• Consistent

• Dependable

• Loving

• Able to make an 18+ year commitment

Benefits:

• Unconditional love of a child

• The knowledge that you are guiding a child to become a healthy, happy, productive member of society

Compensation:

• Love

• Satisfaction of a job well-done

The Myth of Entitlement –

Monday, March 14th, 2011

Gimmie

One of the biggest myths in our culture today is that we are entitled to a great life.  Somehow, somewhere, someone else is responsible for filling our lives with happiness, our dream career, a wonderful family, and happy personal relationships… simply because we exist.  But the truth is that only one person is responsible for the quality of the life you live.  That person is you.

If you want to be successful, you have to take 100% responsibility for absolutely everything that you experience in your life. This includes your achievements and failures, the results you produce, the quality of your relationships, the state of your health, your finances, your feelings, your kids—absolutely everything!

This can be hard to swallow for most of us.  In fact, most of us have been conditioned to blame something outside of ourselves for the parts of our life we don’t like. We blame our parents, our bosses, our friends, the media, our coworkers, our clients, our spouse, the weather, the economy, our astrological chart, our lack of money. We never want to look at where the real problem is—ourselves.  Next time you are out in public, listen to people, your friends, your family, yourself…you will be amazed at how much blaming is going on.

To achieve major success in life—to achieve those things that are most important to you—you must assume 100% responsibility for your life. Nothing less will do.  You cannot move forward in your life and be successful if you are blaming others for your life.  You can’t be successful and make excuses at the same time…it’s impossible!  Change your life now by taking full responsibility of everything in your life.

Not Everything You See

Thursday, March 10th, 2011

As you can see on our site, not everything is focused simply on being in trouble and being pregnant. Some of our material applies to you if you are a parent simply guiding your teen in a direction to avoid the pitfall of unplanned pregnancy.

Some of the material applies to you if you are a teen parent and looking to better your life and circumstances by learning from others who can help you step over the ditches and avoid the cuts and bruises that inevitably come from being such a young parent.

Legacy 4 Kids wants to give every young women and child a chance to live a life of love, honor, courage and grace. We will constantly strive to find service providers and mentors for you to help you live up to the challenges life so often throws us.

Time Management for Moms-By Susie Michelle Cortright

Tuesday, March 8th, 2011

We’ve all heard the classic time management advice: Stick to a schedule. Work smart, not hard…But moms need time management tricks as flexible as their schedules, since there will always be those days when your cat needs an emergency trip to the vet, your infant gets a stomach bug, and your kindergartner announces that he needs 48 frosted cupcakes by noon.

All moms have an office that never closes and an inbox that never empties, whether we work outside the home or not. This daily grind can put us all on the fast track to burnout. Here are some time management tips especially for moms.

Organize

Sound organization is a stepping-stone to time management.

  • Have things packed and ready to go. Keep a basket or folder ready for outgoing mail. Keep the diaper bag and snack bags stocked.
  • Organize your house and desk. See Momscape articles: “Conquering Kids’ Clutter” and “Organizing Your Closets.”
  • Write all of your appointments on one calendar.
  • Stick to a routine.
  • Know thyself. If your mind shuts off at 8pm, schedule your biggest tasks first thing in the morning.
  • Make a to-do list before you go to bed so you won’t waste that precious morning time.
  • If your kids’ disruptions are frequent, give them what they want: Spend at least 20 minutes offering them your undivided attention. No TV, no radio, just toys and books (depending, of course, on their ages). Play with them, read to them. Often, these disruptions are just a sign that they need a little one-on-one time.
  • More ideas… Maria Garcia, author of Finally Organized, Finally Free, offers a free idea-pack of practical organizational tips with a subscription to her newsletter. This is a great resource, full of ideas on how to get more personal and professional juice out of your day. Visit her website for more quick tips. http://www.getorganizednow.com

Energize

Exercise to energize. Spending an hour a day on exercise can actually save you time. You’ll feel more energized and productive throughout the day, and you may even require less sleep at night. Cut the time spent working out by boosting the intensity. Don’t cut the workout itself.

Prioritize

As moms, we dash from one responsibility to another, but there is an alternative that we often forget: Give yourself less to do.

The first step is to figure out what’s really important to you. Schedule several key tasks and outsource the rest.

Delegating is difficult, but it will get easier with practice. I have always assumed that I can save money by doing everything myself, but my husband lives by a different rule. As a businessman, he bills his time on an hourly basis, and he has no problem letting me know when the cost-benefit analysis of him completing a household task doesn’t compute. If a plumber would cost less than it would for him to take the time to fix the bathroom leak, we call the professional.
Taken one step further, if you enjoy your work and would earn more money if you spent more time at it, why not give yourself that extra time (and money) by hiring someone to do the tasks you don’t enjoy?

Just Say No

We are here for our children. We are here for our husbands, our parents, our siblings, and our friends. But nowhere in the mommy manual does it say we always have to be here for the lady on the next block who needs us to run next week’s PTA meeting. Nowhere does it say we have to spend all night in the sewing room, unless, of course, we want to.

Some experts say “no” is the only word you need for effective time management. We moms want to please, to help, and to make life easier for everyone around us.

The next time someone calls to ask for your help, agree to think it over. When you no longer feel pressured for an answer, ask yourself if you really want to help. Make sure you aren’t agreeing solely to please the person on the other end of the phone.

When we learn to respect our time, others will respect it, too.

Slow Down

Learn how to take life as it comes. When you’re faced with a seemingly daunting task, promise yourself to take your time and enjoy it rather than rushing through. Time to cook dinner? Dig for your favorite recipe, pour a class of Chardonnay. Mince some fresh herbs, and savor the aromas.
For more information on developing this singular focus, read “Enjoy Your Time,” new on the Inspiration Channel.

 Susie Michelle Cortright is the author of More Energy for Moms and the publisher of Momscape.com – a website devoted to helping moms enjoy motherhood. Visit today for empowering articles, inspiring essays, self-care tips, and giveaways all designed to nourish and invigorate a mother’s spirit.