This FREE teleclass is for you if…

May 20th, 2011 | Posted in Mind+Body+Soul by

  • You are a parent or mentor to a young woman whom you know is pregnant and you have no idea what your next step should be.

  • If you are a grandparent that is considering the task of raising your grandchild because your child is too young or unable to take the responsibility.
  • You are having a difficult time communicating your hopes and fears to your family after learning of an unplanned pregnancy.

When your daughter tells you She’s Expecting

She’s pregnant. WHAT NOW? What did we do wrong?

It is not a conversation we look forward to or embrace when it happens.

In this FREE teleclass you will learn the 5 step approach to creating a powerful partnership with your teen.

She said it, “I’m pregnant.” Now What do I do or say?

When your daughter first breaks the news to you, you may feel shock, disappointment, despair, embarrassment. You may think, “Her life is shattered. Our lives are ruined. All of her (and our!) hopes, dreams and plans are over with.”
It’s certainly isn’t good news, but it also is not the end of the world. Here we discuss the next steps for you as a parent or mentor to get you through this difficult moment in time.

1. Learn how to Step into her shoes and understand her fears

Remember, she is scared and she is the child here for now.

  • Feeling like she has lost your love and confidence.
  • Knowing she has disappointed you.
  • Feeling alone and needing support.
  • Wondering what her options are.
  • Facing a future she hadn’t planned.

Learn how to open up lines of communication so you both are able to speak about your hopes and fears freely without additional friction.

2. How to step up at a time you feel you have been kicked in the gut.

Learn how to be an asset to your daughter and still maintain the child parent relationship.

  • Reassuring her of your unconditional love and concern.
  • Affirming your confidence in her.
  • Trusting that life is not over, just simply changed.

Learn how to be an asset and a confidant to your child. She is facing a great deal of uncertainty, but so are you. Once you learn how to give her guidance without fear it will be so much easier for the entire family to work together.

3. Simply say it, learn to speak up for yourself as a parent without allowing negativity to creep into the relationship.

She can’t read your mind. You need to speak the words:
Learn what to say and how to say it without causing distress and mistrust and mean it.

  • “I still love you. No matter what.”
  • “I’m here for you and will help you in whatever way I can.”
  • “You do have options.” (marriage, adoption, single-parenting, evening college courses, etc.)
  • “Some people will look down on you. Many more will extend their compassion.”
  • “You are ultimately accountable to your child, not other people.”
  • “You have a whole lifetime ahead of you. This one mistake doesn’t need to destroy your bright future.”
  • “We can get our family help and guidence through this challenging time.”

4. A comfortable environment, making your home a safe place for all of you.

Learn how to create a non-threatening atmosphere by:

  • Being willing to listen as she talks about her feelings.
  • Giving advice only when asked.
  • Enabling her to make rational, thoughtful decisions.
  • Respecting her privacy. (Allow her to ponder secret thoughts.)
  • Respecting her feelings about the baby’s father (whether the relationship continues or is terminated).
  • Guiding the baby’s father into responsible participation or not.

5. Family matters and there are a whole bunch more now to deal with.

Lighten your daughter’s burden by offering to tell close family members about her pregnancy. They need to know because:

  • It gives family an opportunity to express their genuine concern.
  • Siblings, because they are closer in age, may offer her unique sympathy.
  • They may have suggestions you haven’t thought of.
  • You can unite as a family to be a support for her.
  • Learning to deal with and communicate with additional family: the father’s parents and his siblings.

After sharing the news, remember:

  • To respect one another’s opinions.
  • You are not obligated to act on every suggestion made by others.
  • Family members may strongly disagree on some decisions.
  • Ultimately, it’s your daughter and the life inside of her who are affected by the decisions made by your family.

Don’t deny it- There are so many more issues you will have to fact in the coming months. This is just the beginning. Here are just a few of the concerns that you and your family will be faced with in a very short time.

Life Purpose Development
Meeting the Father’s Family

You can best help your daughter when you are strengthened and healthy. We are here to help.
We look forward to “meeting” you at the Teleclass!  Click here to register!

Kelly Marquet-Bodio
Founder, Legacy 4 Kids

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