Archive for July, 2011

What Would it Take For YOU to Speak Up?

Friday, July 29th, 2011

PHOENIX – Court documents show a Phoenix girl who was found dead earlier this month in a box was also a victim of various forms of abuse over the last several months.

MTV's Teen Mom

Wednesday, July 6th, 2011

Psychotherapist Stacy Kaiser and entertainment reporter Nola Oguunaike discuss the controversy surrounding MTV’s “Teen Mom.”

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How Does One Accept The Verdict of NOT GUILTY?

Wednesday, July 6th, 2011

I personally am shocked and horrified that this women is going to be free. She is
a menace to society and a bunch of other things I prefer not to say on a public
blog. She is nothing more than a human stain!

I have no idea how to explain this one! It is a tough one!

I am a grandmother raising my gorgeous innocent granddaughter because her biological parents
were unable to give her a life she deserved. She was born to a couple unexpectedly
and they had no idea how to take care of themselves much less an innocent child.
I find it extremely hard to believe that the grandparents of Caylee Anthony did
not step in and take over given the fact her mother was unable to differentiate
fact from fiction from such a young age. WTF? If they were so close to the
child, why the hell didn’t they see it coming? Why didn’t they say something if Caylee was missing for more than a few days, never mind a MONTH. I will tell you one thing. If my daughter went missing for more than 24 hours and my in-laws or my mother did not know where she was, I would of had hell to pay. Not to mention the fact these days a parent must let others know where their children are at at all times just in case…something happens to the parent. The child needs a back up plan. This is where my good friend Darlynn Morgan comes in. More on her on my Expert page. Every good parent needs to have a close freind or family member know where your child is as all times. It is a saftey plan. A MANDITORY ONE!

Where or who is Caylees father? Where are his parents? I missed this info. Was it
ever made public. I know the defense tried to pin it on her brother Lee, but it
seems that had no merit either.

As a matter of fact the whole damn story seems to be a bunch of crap. No wonder
the jury came back with a not guilty verdict. The case was full of half truths,
bitter pain and rubbage. How does one come up with a “without a
doubt” when the entire case was full of chaos and doubt.

I personally know what it feels to be lied to and betrayed by someone close to
you such as your own child. However, if she ever came close to being a threat
to my little granddaughter, there is no way in HELL I would cover it up or lie
about it.

Life always has a way of catching up with us. Casey Anthony will pay her dues. It is
her destiny to be behind bars. A bit like OJ Simpson. She, just like him will be
desperate for the spotlight again. She will lie to the wrong person next time. We will eventually see her rot there.
Hopefully it will be before she gives birth to another innocent child that will
have her legacy to deal with!

Yep, I am pissed off! I’m ranting…




Tuesday, July 5th, 2011

Growing Yourself as a Parent

Monday, July 4th, 2011

“Grown-ups never understand anything for themselves, and it is tiresome

for children to be always and forever explaining things to them.”

—Antoine de Saint-Exupery, The Little

Imagine a baby shower where the guests bring a special kind
of gift for the new parents.
Not baby clothes. Not strollers or cribs. Not even a single
book on child-rearing.

The gifts for the new parents? Self-awareness, self-love and
self-growth as a person, as well as a parent.

The best parenting requires that we not only work to nurture
and care for our children but that we nurture and care for ourselves.

Parenting is one of the—if not the—most challenging jobs on
the planet. There is the awesome responsibility of raising and guiding another
human being, of course. But it’s the daily interactions between children and
parents that can require almost super-human amounts of flexibility, patience
and awareness. All the experts and all the books aren’t there when it’s your
toddler who won’t nap, your child who stole a valued toy from his best friend,
your depressed teen who is desperately searching for answers, your adult child
who can’t hold down a job, or the dreaded unplanned pregnancy of your teen.

Successful—even joyful—parenting is about listening to
ourselves as well as listening to our children. It’s a hands-off approach that
brings the focus back to what we are feeling and experiencing, so that we don’t
unthinkingly rain anger and fear down upon our children. Being aware of
ourselves helps us develop a strong “inner authority” or an intuitive sense of
knowing what is best for us and our children in any moment. (And accepting that
sometimes we really don’t know yet!)
“We guide (our children) not because they have basically
shabby motives, but because they lack the one strength most of us have:
awareness of the world,” write authors Hugh and Gayle Prather in their book, Spiritual Parenting: A Guide to
Understanding and Nurturing the Heart in Your Child.

Their book calls parenting a spiritual path that helps us
grow as people while we are helping our children grow into adults. Our children
challenge us and if we can truly listen, we can grow.

One of the first challenges is to understand that old
patterns—often formed in our own childhoods—can often rule our behavior as
parents right now. For example, if our own parents tried to fix everything that
went wrong, we may try to do the same with our children. But our children may
need us just to listen to their fears and not jump in with our own fears and
try to “fix” it all.
In the process, we allow our kids to make mistakes, and that
means we can, too. And if we can forgive our kids and accept them in all their
flawed glory, it can’t be too big a jump to do this for ourselves.

As author Joyce Maynard writes, “It’s not only children who
grow. Parents do, too. As much as we watch to see what our children do with
their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours. I can’t tell my
children to reach for the sun. All I can do is reach for it myself.”

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