Consider It!

December 12th, 2011 | Posted in Mind+Body+Soul by

It amazes me each time I chat with a young woman how often she refers to others to explain herself. “My boyfriend says I…My mom says that I should…

I want all young women out there to be quiet for just a moment each day to reflect on yourself. Who are you today? How do you see yourself? What are your dreams? Who do you want to be in  5 years?

It’s hard isn’t it? All the mind chatter gets in the way and you start hearing the “others” voices of who you should be, what you should want…

Take 10 minutes each day. Set a time to be alone and reflect (meditate). Visualize who you want to be. The path will become clearer for you and decisions will be easier if you take the time to consider the possibilities.

Who do you admire? Who makes you look up if mentioned in the news or by a friend? What difference do you want to make? Don’t worry about the how, just give yourself the time to consider.

My challenge to all parents is to allow and be OK with your children thinking about themselves. What do they want? What is important to them? By doing this you validate them as a human being. Don’t be frightened if it doesn’t match up with your expectations. Understand you gave birth to an individual, not an addition to yourself.  Sometimes this is the hardest concept for a parent to grasp. We are here to help these young people become the leaders of the next generation. It is our job to be the best human we can be and hope and pray they notice.

Mistakes, of course  they will make them. So did we! Champion them when they move forward. Love them either way- but be the kind, loving decent parent they deserve.

They may not have the future you planned for them on the radar, but the key is to listen early to the future they see for themselves. You will learn a great deal about them and open up a huge amount of trust and communication by asking them about their thoughts, then quickly shutting up. If they don’t engage immediately, they will…just give them the space to contemplate. Don’t badger, simply listen. Sometimes the silence you hear can be deafening!

If you would like to chat with me personally I would love to hear from you.

Thanks so much for visiting

Kelly Marquet-Bodio

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