YOU ARE HER MAGIC

January 18th, 2012 | Posted in Life + Love by

From the moment we are born and through around fifth grade we consider our mothers be the most magical person in the universe. She can fix everything. She makes us feel better with a simple smile or graceful hug. She can say the simplest thing to make all the hurt go away. Her very smell or voice can change our attitude from tears to giggles. We cry when she leaves and anticipate her arrival.

Then…

One day we realize she isn’t what she said she was. NOPE, she is human like every other mother out there! She’s been lying! Now, you are angry and you question each thing she says…Why should I do that? What for? I don’t feel like it. Well, you said you would make it to my swim meet, but you didn’t! Why should I do what you say? Why should I believe that you will pick me up after school?  I’ll just go home with Sarah, her mom always picks her up on time.

No, I don’t want to cut my hair like that, I want to look like Sarah’s mom, not like you! I don’t want to wear that anymore, I want to wear…

Sound familiar? Yes, the day we as moms fall from grace. The day our little ones realize we are not super heroes, but just ordinary women. It’s a rough day, but a day we will all face in some way or another. No worries my dear, it won’t last forever.

So what do we a mom’s do to make this easier. How do we stoop it? Well, there are a few ways:

  1. When she is small, admit when you have made a mistake. Own up to it and appoligize for the blunder. This shows her early on you are human and still lovable.
  2. When someone else makes a mistake talk about it and how it could have been done better or with less chaos or …
  3. When she fails at something or forgets to do something, simply remind her that we all make mistakes, you still love her and you expect her to do better next time.

With these few rules, she will feel trust for you from the very beginning. Communication is still the key ingredient to ensure a less chaotic teenager/parent relationship.

One day your precious little girl will again come back, hopefully before she makes you a grandmother. This is usually the shoe in. Once she is a mother herself, she will finally understand your message and your story.

Make way for this transition, and do not take it personal. It will happen to some degree. Be strong, be calm and most of all give yourself a big hug. Your princess is NORMAL and you are a good mom.

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One Response to “YOU ARE HER MAGIC”

  1. Gaban says:

    We are glad that you are excited about your poiitsve pregnancy test. Parenting is a difficult job and parenting as a teen is even more difficult. So finding out all you can to prepare for the job is very responsible! It is important to get proper nutrition, exercise and take supplemental vitamins while pregnant to ensure that your baby is as healthy as possible when born. It is also important to stay away from any type of drugs and alcohol while pregnant. It sounds like you have a good support system that will help you when your baby is born. Unfortunately your baby will not come with a direction manual, and each baby is different. So having support and as much understanding about babies is important; it is also important for you to be as emotionally healthy as you can for yourself and for the child. It is a big responsibility to raise a child and to be able to parent to the best of your ability being emotional healthy is key. I would love to expand further about these concepts with you, you can email us at or call us at 1-800-553-2229 (BABY) for more detailed information. ~Malisa

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