Archive for the ‘Edify’ Category

Danielle LaPorte – Meet Her, Then Introduce Your Daughter to Her Today!

Thursday, June 21st, 2012

Making It Right, A Mom’s Very First Step to Creating a Harmonious Relationship with Your ‘Budding’ tween or teen Daughter.

Tuesday, April 17th, 2012

• Are you a mom that is starting to feel the pain of a communication breakdown with your tween or teen?

• Is your once delightful little one developing an attitude you simply don’t get?

• Are you looking for a way to stop the communication breakdown before it escalates and gets worse.

• Is she suddenly ‘tuning you out?’ Only using selective hearing…

• Are you concerned that she may be getting into trouble or keeping things from you?

• Are you finding it hard to make even the smallest comment without her taking it wrong are getting defensive or angry?

• Does she accuse you of being angry or making her life difficult when you ask her to clean her room, help with laundry, do dishes or participate in the household conversation?

Well I have a few answers for you, all you have to do, is click the link below and you will be signed up for a no obligation and no cost  phone appointment with me to personally discuss strategy over the phone. The call dedicated to helping you find your voice and stride to make this change and transformation of your little princess into a gracious young woman you can be proud of without a fight.

It’s not what you think. This is not a call to take lightly. I am going to be candid about a few things you need to know. It might not be what you expect or want to hear. But it is the truth. I have worked with many teens and young women for over 20 years. I have felt many of the feelings of overwhelm you are felling right now. Now I know how to stop the madness and confusion BEFORE it becomes unmanageable. I wish I did 15 years ago!

This is not just a call for parents of teens. This call is for you if you are a parent, a woman, a mentor, a teacher or caregiver to our most precious commodity – Our kids and our future.

Click Here to schedule a no obligation call with me personally to discuss how to take you out of overwhelm.

Your Life, Your Dreams = Your Echo

Wednesday, April 11th, 2012

This is a great video for all, not just parents done by an inspiring women named Danielle LaPorte – called: A Credo for Making it Happen.

We all want to make it happen. We want our kids to make it happen… If you are a parent or someone who inspires children or teens please watch. If all of us lived our lives like this all of our children would be extraordinary and the entitlement issues would fade away. I know it sounds simple, but remember our children are our echo. We must be and behave in a way our kids can be proud of and understand.

Have vision and go for it. Teach your kids the same. Give them the permission to be great.

Watch this video with your family each morning. Chat about it. Create dreams and vision. Create your echo!

The Responsibility Rules – Leading a Self-Disciplined Life in a Self-Entitled World

Wednesday, April 4th, 2012

by Susan Dench -I just received this book, I cannot wait to read it. I love her style and I appreciate her candid truth telling ability to cut through all the BS! I will let you know my thoughts in a few days when I am finished with the read.

Achievement vs. Compassion

Wednesday, April 4th, 2012

Raising Happiness: A mothers guide to your child’s success:

I loved this girls story. I am sure many of you will appreciate the past/present parenting skills as well. I learn so much each day from these amazing women. I am so pleased to introduce you to Christine Carter.

 

 

A sociologist and happiness expert at UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center, Christine Carter, Ph.D. is the author of RAISING HAPPINESS: 10 Simple Steps for More Joyful Kids and Happier Parents. Dr. Carter also writes a blog for Greater Good, which is syndicated on the Huffington Post and PsychologyToday.com. Carter has helped thousands of parents find more joy in their parenting while raising happy, successful and resilient kids. Known for her parenting and relationship advice, Carter draws on psychology, sociology, neuroscience, and uses her own chaotic and often hilarious real-world adventures as a mom to demonstrate the do’s and don’ts in action.

After receiving her B.A. from Dartmouth College where she was a Senior Fellow, Dr. Carter worked in marketing management and school administration, going on to receive her Ph.D. in sociology from UC Berkeley. Her first book, The Other Side of Silence, is one of the most frequently stolen books out of university libraries. Dr. Carter has been quoted in Women’s Health and Parenting magazines, the New York Times, Los Angeles Times, USA Today and dozens of other publications. She has appeared on the “Oprah Winfrey Show,” the “Rachael Ray Morning Show,” “The Daily Show with Jon Stewart,” “CBS Sunday Morning,” “ABC World News with Diane Sawyer,” and NPR.

Carter loves to speak to parents, grandparents, and teachers. She has been a key-note speaker at hundreds of schools and professional groups. In 2010, she received an award from the Council on Contemporary Families for her outstanding science-based reporting on family issues. Dr. Carter teaches parenting classes online throughout the year to a global audience on her website www.raisinghappiness.com.

Trophy Kids – by Susan Dench our Guest Blogger

Monday, March 19th, 2012

When the kids were younger, you could hardly place a book on a shelf with the number of trophies they had. Wow, that must mean they were incredible athletes that played on a lot of championship teams, right?

Uh, no, but they did show up.

The kids showed up for games in which scores weren’t kept (although they could tell you exactly what it was) so the message was, “Hey, it doesn’t matter if you practiced more, worked your butt off, are more skilled or had a more winning attitude on the field – this isn’t a meritocracy, we want to play down to the lowest common denominator and treat everyone equally. You’re special, just like everyone else. In fact, we are huge proponents of and encourage mediocrity. Otherwise, we might hurt some feelings and damage kids’ self esteem.”

Good grief.

At the end of every season, during the obligatory pizza party, shiny engraved golden globes were handed to each child, along with a healthy heaping of praise about how incredibly awesome they were and how much they contributed to the team. Um, well, that’s not quite true. In fact, each of them will tell you that soccer/basketball/softball/lacrosse (depending on the kid) wasn’t really their best sport. Kids are smart – they know a scam when they see one.

When we were growing up, your trophy was a cast on your broken leg, received blocking a ferocious shot and thereby saving the game. When asked, you could proudly tell the tale if how you actually earned your scars.

If the kids continue to play at the high school level, our experience is that they can be put on varsity teams even though they are only JV material – perhaps because they are a senior and it wouldn’t be “fair” to have them play down, or because their parents swooped in to threaten the Athletic Director and the coach found himself caught between a rock and a hard place. (I’m sure we don’t live in the only town where this happens. Don’t even get me started about the coach who caught three of his best players smoking pot but let it slide because he didn’t want them kicked off the team. But I digress – that is an upcoming post.)

So how does this play out as the kids reach adulthood? Well, Lands’ End and Bank of America have “praise teams” to make sure their younger employees enjoy high self-esteem and feel good about themselves by having praise doled out in consistent dosages. Our friends have noticed their younger employees can be quite needy, wanting constant reassurance about what a great job they are doing – even if they aren’t. Younger employees actually have the temerity to ask for entitlement raises – not for merit, but for simply showing up. (Hmmm, there seem to be some patterns here.) I haven’t heard of anyone asking for a medal for attending a conference, trade show or meeting, but could that really be far behind?

Now, who has to take responsibility for this disturbing turn of events? A vast conspiracy by the trophy industry? A master plan concocted by plastic and metal producers? I actually wish it was. But it is parents who are guilty of this ridiculous praise cycle. Parents who volunteer as coaches and hand out the trophies, parents who serve on the local sports boards that create such stupid, inane rules as “no scoring”, parents who have words with the volunteer coaches about the amount of playing time their kid gets, parents who praise the kid even when they, frankly, stink. Parents who actually condone and encourage this behavior. And we’ve created some monsters – in both the kids and the parents.

Our 2 1/2 year old granddaughter will be getting into sports soon (her grandfather already has her out on the ice and a miniature hockey stick is waiting for her in the hall closet). I really hope that she only gets a trophy if she truly earns one.

Susan Dench is a seasoned marketer who has been cited by marketing guru, Seth Godin, for her outside-the-box business thinking. Her background includes stints at large, mid-sized, venture funded and shoestring-budget entities, working internationally in brand management, marketing communications, partnerships and product and market development. Her company, Muddy Dog Media, offers guidance and resources to businesses seeking enhanced relationships with their clients. Only too happy to express her opinions, whether asked for or not (as energetically corroborated by her children), she is the author of several books including, “The Responsibility Rules: Living a Self-Disciplined Life in a Self-Entitled World.” Susan lives in Falmouth, Maine with her darling husband and admittedly spoiled pets in a charming 1920’s house, which is in a perpetual state of renovation.”She can be found at susandench.com or reached at susan@themuddydog.com

“Not My Daughter”

Wednesday, March 7th, 2012

 

My Good Girl

Yes, I said it too. No parent expects for their princess to get into any trouble. They are good kids, we are good parents. Why on earth should you worry about Internet safety, bullies, drugs or alcohol abuse?

Well let me explain the simple why:

Because we are not with our kids 24 hours a day. They are not extensions of ourselves. They are individuals with independent minds. They are living in a world today that we could not even imagined when we were a pre-teen or teen. They have access to so much and they are expected to make choices and decisions each and everyday. Some of these decisions they are not yet ready to make. They simply do not have the cognitive skills or the experience. But they think they do. They see TV, they chat with friends, they have access to a computer, they have teachers, coaches, siblings and parents of friends they rely on for guidance.

But wait, what are they learning from these outside sources? Shouldn’t they be learning the how and the why from a trusted parent or guardian? ABSOLUTELY!

Yes, I always said ” My little girl will never get in trouble. She has good grades and comes from a great home with no drugs or alcohol abuse.” Well, I was WRONG! She did get into trouble, a lot of trouble. She is still suffering today.

I was sure my daughter had good values and knew right from wrong.  She went to a good school. We lived in a very affluent neighborhood. We lived in the finest of places, La Jolla, CA, Healdsburg, CA and Napa California.  My kids should be safe.  But no. Not all parents are like you or me…I didn’t take enough time to get to know them well enough.  I was working and not paying enough attention. Because of this my little 15 year old princess was introduced to a life of drugs. By her friends MOM!  My daughter decided I was no fun, too strict and was entirely too serious. Her friends mom was a lot more fun.  This led to so much more pain and anguish before I found out about it.

The fall out has been nothing short of retched. My daughter is now 27 and still working on learning how to put her life back together all due to some very bad choices she made as a teen. Today I dedicate myself to you parents. I tell my story to make a difference in a young women’s life and her families. I look for other parenting experts to help me help you. I am on a mission to give our young girls the proper tools to stand up and be our future adults living their lives without chaos, anger or pain. Won’t you help me?

Learn how here!

Spring 2012 ESCAPE Program

Tuesday, March 6th, 2012

A complementary Class!

ESCAPE- 6 Steps to Preparing Girls for Success, Health and Happiness and Avoiding Teen Crisis”.

 
If you’re the parent or grandparent of a young girl between the ages of 4-16, then make plans to join Kelly Marquet-Bodio, crisis counselor and CEO of Legacy4Kids, on August 18th for a complimentary teleclass entitled, “ESCAPE- 6 Steps to Preparing Girls for Success, Health and Happiness and Avoiding Teen Crisis”.

 
On this call, you will discover proven strategies and techniques designed to help your daughter make great decisions at any age and avoid becoming the victim of teen pregnancy, risky behavior and abuse.

 
Kelly will also teach you about other “modern life” dangers that you may not be aware of (including Internet traps, early puberty and food additives) that may be causing your daughter to act out in ways she’s not prepared to handle or control.

 
Sound interesting? Then get all the details now on this page and register absolutely f*r*e*e while you’re there.  These are skills that will never go to waste in helping your daughter achieve a lifetime of health, happiness and success.

 

Sign up here

Celebrating Martin Luther King Jr.

Saturday, January 14th, 2012

I want to invite you to watch this video. It is my nephew’s 6th grade class last year performing a song their teacher wrote to honor Martin Luther King Jr. birthday.

This is nothing short of amazing. Please watch this and comment below.

 

Reincarnation

Wednesday, November 30th, 2011