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Help Us Make a Difference in a Young Girls Life

Monday, October 3rd, 2011

Do you or someone you know have a young daughter? Perhaps they as parents are facing some troubles trying to figure out what is going on in her world. You are worried she may not be listening to the right messages. It’s so easy to lose track of time. One day she is 4 and concerned about Barney, the next moment she is concerned about who she will go to homecoming with. Not to mention her dress!

 

Well, Legacy 4 Kids wants to help. We are a group of experts that have come together to make a difference. We want to help parents and guardians create a solid foundation for our young girls to count on. We want them to be safe and live in peace in this world to create a new generation that do not have to live in fear or chaos.

 

Face it. It is different today. Some ways better, some worse, but very scary if you are a parent anticipating your little girl growing up. All you want is to give her a safe world to grow up in, but everywhere you turn there is turmoil. Kids are facing bullying, depression, unplanned pregnancy, abduction, date rape, drugs and so many issues and mixed messages thrown at them at such a young age.

 

Do you watch TV and wonder what ever happened to our nations innocence? Do you wonder why the young girls at your daughter’s school all seem to look 5 years older than they are? Do you dread school clothes shopping because all the stuff looks like it should of been thrown out in the eighties?

 

Legacy 4 Kids Foundation is determined to help. We are a nonprofit group dedicated to helping families with young children navigate the pitfalls of our society. Not everyone can afford healthcare, counseling or coaching. We are here to help.

 

Please help us help families before it is too late.

 

 

Legacy 4 Kids Foundation Pre- Holiday Season Fundraising Campaign

$15,000 in 15 days

 

Please Donate!

 

Let’s raise $15,000 in 15 days to prevent teen crises, launch new programs, and support ongoing programs in 2012. And when you participate, we’ll show our gratitude with…

 

  • The Largest Donation over $1,000 will spend the entire day in the Beautiful Napa Valley, enjoy a private winery tour and tasting, enjoy a lovely Balloon Ride over the valley, receive two tickets to attend the ESCAPE LIVE in February at the Historic Uptown Theatre (showcasing speakers all dedicated to our cause) and a follow up wine dinner with the ESCAPE participants. (value $10,000).

 

  • The Largest Donation over $500 will join us at our exclusive Luxury Liquid Assets Wine Tasting and Dinner event in Napa, California and receive a copy of the ESCAPE Teleseminar Series – Digital Edition. (value $1,000.00).

 

  • The first 20 donations over $250 or more will take a personal full day tour of Napa Valley with Napa Valley Adventure Tours. (value $500.00).

 

  • The first 20 donations over $100 or more will receive 2 bottles of Napa’s Fine Select wines shipped to you to enjoy for the holiday season.

 

  • Donations from $50 to $99 will receive our warmest gratitude and a Legacy 4 Kids Foundation ECHO Bracelet honoring Grandparents, Parents and Children we here at the Foundation are so pleased to serve.

 

  • Donations $10.00 to $49.00 will receive a listing on our new Contributors page on our new website at www.Legacy4Kids.org.

 

For clarification 88 cents of each dollar contributed goes to growing and sustaining the Legacy 4 Kids Foundation. Based on this contribution percentage formula the Legacy 4 kids Foundation is about to begin its 2nd year of operation. Your contribution will enable us to help more families and prevent teen crises.

 

We’re raising $15,000 in 15 days. (October 1st – October 15th)

 

Donate Now

 

In closing, no contribution is too small, and we’d be grateful if you will share this with your friends TODAY.

 

Please join with us to enable Legacy 4 Kids Foundation to assist more parents and their daughters to live a happy and successful lives without fear, and make 2012 something our girls can celebrate.

 

Thank you from the bottom of our hearts for helping us meet our 15 day goal and proving we can all make a difference by doing a small part.

 

Click on the DONATE NOW button on this page and give whatever you can, no amount is too small and share the link to this page with all people you know.

 

 

The Wonders of Nature by Karen Deerwester, ED.S.

Friday, May 6th, 2011

Spring

-a note for all Mommies

In a world of paved parking lots and rubberized playground surfaces, young children are growing up deprived of a personal connection to nature. More children are climbing on indoor jungle gyms than on giant old trees. The climbing remains the same but have you ever tried to hug a jungle gym? The magic is lost. Children need nature.

They need to run in wide open spaces and take comfort in cozy leafy nooks. They need to tell their secrets to slow moving snails and count bucketfuls of shells. Nature is exactly the right size for little growing people, from entire worlds hidden under rocks to grand skies that invite flights of imagination.

Weekly strolls through a Cypress preserve mean more to your child than a once-a-year-visit to Butterfly World, unless of course your child comes home to discover his own backyard butterflies and caterpillars. Memories are made when your child hears, sees, smells, and touches very specific pieces of nature. Autumn leaves are beautiful but autumn is real when you hear the leaves crunch as you walk, slip on wet leaves after a cold rain, rake leaves on a windy day, and bury your brother under a pile of leaves.

Here are a few ideas of how young children experience the wonders of nature in South Florida neighborhoods. As you read these, try to imagine what pleases your child and captures her curiosity. Awaken your senses to the opportunities that are right in front of you every day.

Bugs and Butterflies

Oh, to live in the land of lizards! Outdoors is a paradise of bugs and small crawly creatures. Adults may need to get control of their squeamishness but the young naturalists are drawn to the dirt eaters and the slime trailers of the tropics. Pull out the magnifying glasses and study the underbellies of leg wiggling buggies. Study the ant hills (yes, watch out for the fire ants). Catch a few lizards. And put out a snack of cucumbers and lettuce for the snails.

Flowers and Trees

Flowers and trees are so easy to take for granted. How many kinds of trees are in your neighborhood? How old are they? When was the last time you laid down under your favorite tree to watch the wind blow through the branches? Give your child a special basket to start a nature collection. Plant a tree and watch it grow, slow ‘n sure. Give your child his own garden space. Pay attention to this lush blooming place that surrounds you.

Moon and Stars

Children believe in the magic of the night sky. Men in moons and stars waiting to grant each wish. Use the night sky to bring calm to the end of a busy day. Chart the night sky. Your child can make an original connect-the-dots drawing of what he sees. Or, have your child draw the moon each night on a daily calendar. Your child will learn to patiently anticipate the next full moon.

 Sun and Shadows

You’d never miss a rainbow but how often do you ignore a shadow? Tall shadows walking in your child footsteps. Does everything have a shadow? Can you trick a shadow or is it only a shadow who tricks you? A sunny day and there’s end to the games your child can invent with shadows. Catch it. Draw it. Make a group shadow. Shadow watching will fine tune your child’s attention to details and give immediate answers to hypothesizing little scientists.

Sand and Ocean

Best of all, if your child’s backyard is the Ocean with seaweed and jellyfish included. Oceans rock and roar. They are fierce and they are gentle. What attracts your child on a day at the beach? The splashing waves, the salty air, building in the sand, or watching her feet sink deeper and deeper in the tide? Notice how different the ocean is at dusk than at dawn, in January than in May. Once again, your child discovers that nature is always changing.

It’s all there for the taking. The beauty, the tranquility, a place to be curious, a place to feel at home. Time in nature will give your child a home in a truly amazing world.

Karen Deerwester is the owner of Family Time Coaching & Consulting, writing and lecturing on parenting and early childhood topics since 1984. Karen is also the Mommy & Me director at The Ruth and Edward Taubman Early Childhood Center at B’nai Torah Congregation in Boca Raton.

The Benefits of a Coach and Mentor for a Pregnant Teen

Monday, May 2nd, 2011

It helps to have an objective person guide you and your family through your decision-making process. Sometimes, when we have difficult choices to make, we’d like to avoid the subject. Many times it takes another person to force us to look at the important issues.

Here at Legacy 4 Kids we are specially trained to assist you in making arrangements for your best possible care and to help you prepare for your future. We are unbiased and we do not have an agenda.

At Legacy 4 Kids you will find people who care about your well-being and that of your baby. We are called counselors, coaches or advocates. Your chats with one of us will provide a way for you to talk through solutions. Out of care and concern, we will give you the opportunity to take a look at your situation and the changes you want to make for a happier future. A counselor can also help you gauge your readiness for parenting. She can give you insight, provide a list of helpful resources and lend you moral support. Just as important, she can serve as a mediator between you and your parents, or between you and your baby’s father.

Depending on your needs, assistance can be provided for obtaining financial aid, medical care, prenatal and childbirth education and — if necessary — housing, maternity clothes and transportation.

It is also advisable that your parents are included in or get counseling as well. There are many excellent reasons why they should talk with an objective professional. A counselor can help to resolve negative feelings like guilt, anger, denial and frustration. She can also help them to be honest with you in terms of what you can and cannot expect from them.

Most parents are too close to the problem to be objective. Counseling can provide your mother and father with the tools to “back off” and allow you to come to your own decision. A trained professional could steer them toward letting go of some of the responsibility. She could assist your parents toward being alert to your needs, yet also help establish the fact that they are not responsible for the choice you make concerning the baby.

It may be hard for your parents to cope with their daughter’s growing up so quickly. If your mom has protected and sheltered you all her life, it’s going to be pretty hard for her to suddenly take off on a shopping trip with you to buy maternity clothes. But counseling can help her and your father work through the upset, confused feelings they may be experiencing.

If you or your parents would like to consider working with me as your mentor and coach, please contact me directly at Legacy 4 Kids and you can book an FREE no cost PRIVATE consultation.

 

Step Up Women's Network

Friday, October 29th, 2010

Please vote before October 31, 2010. This video will explain why.

"It Get's Better"

Thursday, October 14th, 2010

It is about being a leader for Kids. Creating a Legacy4Kids we can all be proud of as human beings. We are all one. One energy and one nation. If you know a bully, extend him or her the gift of tolerance and understanding. Point out the wrong and try your best to creat a right!  If you are being bullied, remember it will indeed get better. You are not alone. You are special, you are important to this world.

We are all gifts to this world. Remember what you do today you will remember and be remembered for tomorrow. Lead by example with Love, Honor, Courage and Grace. We owe this lesson to all of our kids, regardless whether they are gay, straight, tall, fat, odd or just different. This is what makes us human. Our differences are what make us so special. Please teach your kids to live their lives with the attributes of love, honor, courage and grace. Remember, to create a Legacy 4  Kids!  It is our duty as adults or parents and it is our obligation and  blessing to create a world we are proud of to raise our children in. Don’t tollerate a bully, make a change in their life. Demand they change and contribute to this life they are sharing with all of us in a positive way.

To be a Leader

Tuesday, September 28th, 2010

To be a leader, you have to make people want to follow you, and nobody wants to follow someone who doesn’t know where he’s going.

– Joe Namath

Teaching Through Love Instead of Fear -by Pam Leo

Thursday, September 9th, 2010

 

 

“However we treat the child, the child will treat the world.”
– Pam Leo

Can you imagine threatening your partner or good friend by counting “One… two… three…” if he or she did not do what you wanted?

One of the big issues in schools today is “bullying.” Parents and teachers struggle daily with how to stop this behavior. Without realizing it, adults teach bullying behavior to children by modeling it when they use the threat of their physical size or power to make children do things. When I hear a parent counting “One… two” at a young child, I always wonder what the child has been told will happen if the parent gets to three. Is it the threat of a spanking, being yelled at, time out, abandonment (I’m going without you) or the withdrawal of love and approval? Whatever the threat may be, I rarely hear “three.” As intended, the threat of what will happen if the parent gets to three usually compels the child to do whatever it is the parent is telling the child to do. Parents use threats to get children to cooperate because that was what adults so often modeled when we were growing up. Most of us are familiar with the phrase “or else.” We did what we were told out of fear even if we didn’t know what the “or else” would be.

While counting may appear to be a magic form of discipline, there is no magic in threats. Children know that adults are bigger and more powerful than they are. They comply in self-defense. If the only way we can get children to do what we ask is by intimidating them with our greater physical size and power, how will we get them to do as we ask when we are no longer bigger and stronger? ” Ask the parents of any teenager if counting still works. Not only do threats no longer work, they’ve learned to use the same means to make others do what they want.

Many parents see a child’s uncooperative behavior as a challenge to their authority. Once we understand that uncooperative behavior is usually caused by a child’s unmet need or an adult’s unrealistic expectation, we don’t have to take the behavior so personally. Parents and children often have different needs. Sometimes our needs or schedules conflict with our children’s needs. Children who are deeply absorbed in play will not want to interrupt their play to go with us to the bank or the store before it closes. When a parent needs to do one thing and a child needs to do something else there is a conflict of needs. This conflict of needs turns into a power struggle when parents use the power of fear instead of the power of love. The bond or connection parents have with their children is their most powerful parenting “tool.” A strong bond is created over time when parents lovingly and consistently meet a child’s early needs. Threats communicate, “What you think, feel, want or need is not important.” Threats undermine the parent-child bond. When we learn to resolve our “conflicts of needs” in ways that show children that their needs and feelings matter, we strengthen the bond and avoid many power struggles.

The most common reason for conflict of needs between parents and children is lack of resources. If parents had more resources we wouldn’t have to bring the child to the bank or the store because there would be someone else to stay with the child. As long as there is lack of resources there will be conflicts of needs. Until we figure out how to bring more resources into our lives we have to find other ways to resolve our conflicts if we are to stop teaching children to be bullies. If we want to teach children to love instead of hate, we must learn to use conflict resolution skills in our daily interactions with children. Just as children learn bullying from what adults model, they can learn conflict resolution and problem solving skills from what we model. When children learn the skills from how we treat them at home they will bring those skills to their relationships at school.

Very young children can learn conflict resolution if we model it. An older sibling can be taught to find another toy to exchange with their younger sibling instead of just snatching their toy back. When two children want the same toy at the same time we can help them “problem solve” a solution. When there is a conflict of needs because the parent wants to do an errand and the child just wants to stay home and play we can say “let’s problem solve to see if we can find a way for us both to get what we need.” Maybe the child could take the toy in the car or perhaps the errand could wait until tomorrow. When the parent is ready to leave the playground and the child wants to stay longer we can suggest a compromise of five more minutes and doing something fun when we get home. Often it’s not that the child doesn’t want to leave as much as it is that she doesn’t want the fun to end. When we teach children that everyone’s needs are important by honoring their needs they learn to honor the needs of others.

There will be times that we won’t have the time or the resources to meet a child’s need. There will be times that even after honoring the child’s need, the child is still unable to cooperate. At those times it is important to communicate that parents have needs too and even though it makes the child unhappy we do have to go now and then allow the child to have his feeling about having to leave. It is never OK to tell a young child that you will leave without them. Threatening a child with abandonment terrifies a child. When a child has a tantrum about leaving it may not be about leaving the playground at all. Leaving may just be the last straw that unleashes the day’s accumulation of little frustrations. The child may just need to cry to empty out the stresses of the day. A child will be able to move forward much more readily when we can say “I know you’re sad and it’s OK to cry” than if we say “Stop that crying or I’ll give you something to cry about!” When the crying is done the child will usually feel better and be more able to cooperate.

When children’s needs are met and nothing is hurting them they are usually delightful to be with. Whenever a child responds negatively to a reasonable request we need to look for the conflicting need. Once we know how our needs are in conflict we can try to problem solve. I have learned to say, “When you behave that way I know something is wrong, because we love each other and people who love each other don’t treat each other this way. Can you tell me what you need or what’s hurting you?” If I can remember to stop and ask that one simple question it changes the whole context of the conflict. That question communicates, ” I love you and what you feel and need matters to me.”

Sometimes there isn’t a way for both people to get what they need. But not getting what we need is much easier to bear if we are treated in a way that allows us to keep our dignity. Counting at a child communicates, “I am bigger and more powerful than you and you’d better do as I say or I’m going to (in some way) hurt you.” When a big kid says to a smaller one, “Do what I say or I’m going to hurt you,” we call it bullying. When an adult communicates the same thing to a child by counting, we call it discipline. When we treat children in ways that take away their dignity we teach them how to take away other’s dignity. If we want kids to stop bullying, we have to stop bullying kids. The power of fear is easy and quick but short-lived. The power of love requires more work and takes longer but children never outgrow its influence.

Pam Leo
Connection Parenting
Optimal Child Development

Cook together, eat together, talk together, and make mealtime a family time!

Tuesday, August 24th, 2010

You are the most important influence on your child and it is up to you to help your children develop healthy eating habits for life. If you offer a variety of foods, you will help children get the nutrients they need from every food group and they will be more likely to try new foods and to like more foods. Children who have developed a taste for many types of foods enable you to be more creative in planning family meals. It can be a win-win situation- and here is how to get started.

Follow these simple tips:

It is easier to plan family meals when everyone eats the same foods. Stop making different meals for each child- Offer everyone the same foods you eat.

  1. Let your child see that you like to munch on raw vegetables. Eat plenty of fruits, vegetables and whole grains with meals and during snack time- Show by example.
  2. Teach your children about food and nutrition by talking about where fruits, vegetables and grains come from. Let your children make healthy choices- Go grocery shopping together.
  3. Encourage your child to invent new snacks. Avoid purchasing processed foods when you can make your own trail mixes from dry whole-grain, low-sugar cereal and dried fruit- Get creative and try new things.
  4. Be attentive to your child by listening and showing affection- Do not reward kids with candy and treats.
  5. Make dinner time a time for family and focus on each other. Talk about fun and happy things at mealtime- Turn off TV and phone during meals.
  6. Try new foods and serve something you know your child likes with the meal. Avoid lecturing or forcing you child to eat- Be a good food role model.

 

THE MYTH OF ENTITLEMENT

Monday, August 16th, 2010

One of the biggest myths in our culture today is that we are led to believe we are entitled to a great life.  Somehow, somewhere, someone else is responsible for filling our lives with happiness, our dream career, a wonderful family, and happy personal relationships… simply because we exist.  But the truth is that only one person is responsible for the quality of the life you live.  That person is you.

If you want to be successful, you have to take 100% responsibility for absolutely everything that you experience in your life. This includes your achievements and failures, the results you produce, the quality of your relationships, the state of your health, your finances, your feelings, your kids—absolutely everything!

This can be hard to accept for most of us.  In fact, most of us have been conditioned to blame something other than ourselves for the parts of our life that doesn’t work. We blame our parents, our bosses, our friends, the media, our coworkers, our clients, our spouse, the weather, the economy, our astrological chart, our lack of money. We never want to look at where the real problem is—ourselves.  Next time you are out in public, listen to people, your friends, your family, yourself…you will be amazed at how much blaming is going on. It’s disgusting.

To achieve any measure of success in life—to achieve those things that are most important to you—you must assume 100% responsibility for your life. Nothing less will do.  You cannot move forward in your life and be successful if you are blaming others for your life.  You can’t be successful and make excuses at the same time…it’s impossible!  Change your life, change the outcome!  Live your life now with Love, Honor, Courage and Grace. Be the change! Show others how it is done! Make a difference in a child’s world.

Dr. Blaise approves, do you

Sunday, August 15th, 2010

Dr. Blaise Ryan, the chief child behavioral researcher at Child Brain Health Research Institute says: “I recommend this program to parents that want a happier and more cooperative child.” 

If you have ever felt frustrated that your child doesn’t listen to you, and you wish you knew how to get your child to be more cooperative and behave better, then read this groundbreaking guide, make sure you get it now and read it very carefully… 

It has transformed worked for countless families to turn mis-behavior into great behavior. 

Click here to get it: The Happy Child Guide  

 

This program is parent-tested and doctor-approved. Try it. You have nothing to lose but those annoying behaviors. You know the ones: 

-Yelling
-Whining
-Defiance
-Arguing 

Help end these issues with methods that work. 

Now you can get some helpful tips get your child to behave better. 

Click on this link to read how it works: 

Go to: The Happy Child Guide

To your family!

Kelly Marquet-Bodio