Archive for the ‘Pregnant Teen’ Category

Post Abortion Recovery and Counseling Service

Tuesday, February 14th, 2012

Legacy 4 Kids is offering a new class and counseling service:

Post Abortion Recovery and Counseling Service – These weekly phone sessions and unlimited email support along with support to move forward with the eight steps to recovery and self forgiveness.

There are eight steps in the process of post-abortion recovery that take each woman through the stages of grief as outlined in the class. These eight steps are specific to post-abortion healing and therefore do not apply directly to all grieving situations.

*This is a great course for all parties involved, including the parents of the pregnant couple.

  • Symptoms of Post Abortion Stress
  • Guilt
  • Anxiety
  • Psychological Numbing
  • Depression and thoughts of suicide
  • Anniversary Syndrome
  • Re-experiencing the abortion
  • Preoccupation with becoming pregnant again
  • Anxiety over fertility or childbearing issues
  • Interruption of the bonding process with present and/or future children
  • Survival Guilt
  • Development of eating disorders
  • Alcohol and drug abuse
  • Self punishing or self degrading behaviors
  • Brief reactive psychosis

If you or a loved one is suffering please feel free to give us a call or send me an email and I will make sure to give you all the information about this great program available starting March 1, 2012.

An Unsolicited Gift

Thursday, December 29th, 2011

“This year I am determined to practice what I preach. I will not allow stress or fear to consume me or make decisions for me. I will move forward with a positive attitude and be thankful for all I have and the love I share”.
KM Bodio

As Founder of Legacy 4 Kids Foundation I see a great deal of pain and frustration in a number of my clients. At the moment they make the decision to call me or engage myself or a member of my team for our services, they are unaware of the mighty strength they have and the amazing abilities they each possess to make this unplanned crisis a positive one in the lives of so many.

Each one of us is given many gifts in life. At times they may seem like challenges that we do not seem to have the ability or energy to face. These are opportunities to grow and to become the compassionate individuals that we are meant to be. Once we accept the challenge and grasp the concept it all gets easier and the path to peace will unfold. It seems like a lot of rhetoric, but it isn’t. I know from personal experience, some of my biggest challenges have become my biggest accomplishments and created immense amounts of happiness for both myself and those around me.

A few of you know my story, many of you don’t. I was a pregnant teen and gave birth to my beautiful daughter when I was only 18. I became a single mother at 21. I had a limited education and limited funds but I was determined to give my little one a life of love, security and a future. Through many obstacles and self imposed challenges, I am happy to say with a great deal of support and help from family and friends, I accomplished my mission.

However, my daughter chose a different path in adult hood and 24 years later my daughter was pregnant and did not have anyway of supporting herself or her child.  I had no idea what to say or do. By this time my mother and my daughters paternal grandmother had passed, both being huge contributors and great influences throughout our lives. I didn’t have anywhere to turn for the motherly advise I so needed right then.  However, I knew without doubt of any kind I was going to be the primary caregiver to the child if my daughter chose to follow through with the pregnancy.  I had to allow for the all of the chaos and fear to take place around me, all the while knowing what I was going to do, I just didn’t know the how. All I could do is to accept my challenge, be thankful for the opportunity and to move forward with grace. This is called faith!!!

I have had custody of my little granddaughter since birth and she is the light of my life. My Husband and I have chose

Veyah Christmas morning

Veyah

to raise her and give her the life her birth parents are unable  to. Veyah  is the happiest most loving gift to all of us each and every day.

Now I know not all of us can make this choice due to so many of life’s situations and constraints, but remember there is always a choice. I know so many wonderful people that want to parent. Each day I talk to individuals hoping to have the opportunity to love a little one and give them a safe place to grow up and a future to be proud of. These families are angels. They have a lot of love to give. Each child deserves a future to be proud of and to live a life of love, honor, courage and grace. These families offer all of this and more.

If you or someone you know is facing the challenge of an unplanned pregnancy, remember it is not the end of your life as you know it. It can be a new beginning for many including yours.

Be open to the gifts life gives us. It may just be the best ever!

Kelly Marquet-Bodio

Legacy 4 Kids Foundation

As a Parent of a Pregnant Teen-Helping Her to Make an Informed Decision

Tuesday, December 13th, 2011

Experiencing an unplanned pregnancy can be a scary situation in which to find yourself, and if you are a parent of a pregnant teen you are also facing so much anxiety, guilt and anger.

Pregnancy may be a new experience in itself, and then add the fact that it was unplanned and it is your child who is now pregnant, OMG she’s only a baby herself. “Where did I go wrong”?  No matter what it can be stressful and overwhelming. Even so, it’s crucial to remember that you and your daughter have options.

As a Parent of a Pregnant Teen Helping Her to Make an Informed Decision:

The best thing you could do, for both you, your child, and your child’s child is to make an informed decision. An informed decision means that you have studied your options, understand the consequences of each decision, analyzed you and your child’s well being, and made a choice that reflects what you’ve learned and discovered about yourself and your daughter’s situation. Your basic options are abortion, adoption, family parenting and your daughter parenting on her own.

If your daughter decides to consider aborting her pregnancy, there are many things you and she need to research: abortion complications, procedures, and risks. You’ll need to read about the types of abortion and how to prepare both you and her for the procedure. Also, keep in mind that each state has its own abortion laws and guidelines. What’s legal in one state-in reference to the term of pregnancy allowed to abort-isn’t legal in another. If your state disallows abortion, you may need to visit another state for the procedure. And that can take a lot of planning and patience.

Adoption is another option your family might want to consider. You can place right after labor and delivery or you can wait until you’re daughter is ready to place the little one with an adoptive family. If adoption is a viable option for your daughter, look into working with adoption professionals: adoption agencies, adoption lawyers, and adoption facilitators. While not all these adoption professionals are required to process and finalize an adoption, it can be to your benefit to have as many people working with you as possible.

Just because the pregnancy is your daughter’s doesn’t mean that your job as a parent stops with your own child. She is going to need you. She needs to know you love her and support her decisions related to this now so important matter. You won’t be able to make the situation simply go away, but you can open up communication and begin a trust relationship that is so important right now. It is not the time to condemn or ridicule. It is the time to be a team. Work together for the best interest of the unborn.

Many young people feel pressured by family and friends to abort or place. While that shouldn’t happen, it does. Remember that this needs to be your daughter’s choice. No one else should make this decision for her, because she is the one that will live with the consequences and effects for the rest of her life. If she wants to try parenting, she can do so. She can always decide to place later if parenting isn’t for her.

Pregnancy Counseling:
Pregnancy counseling is a great way to thoroughly explore your daughter’s many options. She will sit with a counselor and discuss her situation in depth. S/he will ask you about your life goals, expectations, and needs. S/he will ask you want you want out of life and where you see herself in five years, maybe even ten or fifteen. Once the counselor understands her better, s/he can start pregnancy counseling. In its basic form, pregnancy counseling is an assisted view of your daughters options.

Gathering a Support System:
Having support is important during this process. There will be times that you and she feel alone, confused, angry or scared. These are the times when you will both need your friends and family members around you, helping you. If you don’t have family or friends that will be your support system, you can also join a local support group for those experiencing similar situations. You’ll build relationships and friendships that can help you both during the tough times and celebrate with you during the happy times.

If you feel more comfortable with one-on-one interaction, you can visit with a professional counselor. S/he can help you understand yourself, your needs, and your fears. Your counselor can help you begin the emotional healing process if your daughter decides to abort or place. Even if you decide to parent the child yourself, visiting with a counselor can be useful and beneficial.

Moving Forward:

No matter which decision your daughter makes, there is always a time to move forward for the family. This necessary forward motion is both emotional and physical in nature. Depending on the choice made, you may need to devote some time to find emotional healing. Even though you all made an informed decision, there will be times that will be difficult, saddening, and painful.

There are different ways to move forward. The more obvious one is to move forward with the decision made. However, keep in mind that your daughter can always change her mind if it’s before parental rights are severed or after an abortion procedure has been completed. You both can move forward by recording your journeys in a journal, speaking with a counselor, or by joining a support group.

While an unplanned pregnancy may disrupt the current movement of your lives, you do have options. Throughout this process, remember that you’re not alone. You have others around you who have been in similar situations and you have family and friends who love you. It may be tempting to get caught in despair or fear, but think of this as a new journey, a chance to learn more about yourself.

If you would like to discuss this situation more please contact us for a confidential no obligation phone consultation. You can do this anonymously by calling 877-768-4064 or by logging into our website at www.Legacy4Kids.com. There you can fill out a web form with your contact information and we will get back to you to chat about your options. Remember, you are not alone. We are here to help.

Warmly,

Kelly Marquet-Bodio

Founder – Legacy 4 Kids Foundation

 

I Never Considered My Teen Daughter Would Get Pregnant

Wednesday, November 30th, 2011

Not My Daughter

“As parents of a young girl that we have loved, nurtured and protected to the very best of our abilities we never thought that an uplanned pregnancy was ever going to be an issue in our family. Our daughter is well behaved, she gets good grades and has never been in trouble. Where did we go wrong”?

This is the statement 90% of my clients say when they reach out to me for help. Of course we as parents never thought or wanted our kids to get in trouble or face a crises pregnancy.

If you have learned of a pregnancy, it is simply too late to prevent it or deny it. It is time to face the issue and find out the next steps that works for your daughter and the family.  If you are concerned about behavioural issues with your teen and think you may have time to prevent a crises, then by all means lets get to work. Either way it is really difficult for parents to deal with these issues without guilt, fear or anger on their own.

The way the world looks to a young girl today is very different than it looked to us growing up. This is a simple FACT. It is hard for us as parents to communicate to our kids because now more than ever because we speak different languages and we see consequenses differently.

Thanks to the media, TV and advertising there is nothing that is inappropriate or that cannot be fixed with a simple pill or purchase of a fix all product. When a young girl grows up with these messages it is next to impossible to point out dangers or circumstances that we as parents see as obvious.

Take some steps today to learn warning signs and positive communication skills to open dialog with your daughter without causing her to feel you are invading her privacy or accusing her of inappropriate behavoir.

To learn how, simply fill out the box enter your email address and you will be on your way to a free, private consultation with me. All completely confidential!

 

"30 SOMETHING GRANDMAS"

Monday, November 14th, 2011

Hi Everyone,

Legacy 4 Kids Foundation has been asked to help…we are looking for “30 SOMETHING GRANDMAS”!

Are you in your 30′s and you’ve just become a grandmother?
 Do you have an incredible story to tell about being a 30 something grandma?
 A major cable network is looking for 30 something women whose daughters (or sons) have recently become pregnant, or have already had a child, to star in a new docu-soap reality series!

This series will follow the real life drama of women in their 30′s who have recently found themselves in the role of “Grandma.” Is your new role in life unexpected? Are you thrilled? Maybe a little disappointed? Were you shocked? Did you have something else planned for your life, but right now have to put that on hold?
If this sounds like you, then you’re the perfect candidate for our show!

SEEKING
-Women in their 30′s who have recently or are about to become grandmothers
-Daughter and grandchild must live with you or very nearby
-Must be a legal US resident

*Compensation will be provided for the families who are chosen to appear in the series!*

If you or someone you know would be interested, please contact our office to discuss details.

Kelly@Legacy4kids.com

MTV's Teen Mom

Wednesday, July 6th, 2011

Psychotherapist Stacy Kaiser and entertainment reporter Nola Oguunaike discuss the controversy surrounding MTV’s “Teen Mom.”

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Teen Childbearing Cost Taxpayers $10.9 Billion

Thursday, June 9th, 2011

Teen Childbearing Cost Taxpayers $10.9 Billion –

original post: The National Campaign to Prevent teen and Unplanned Pregnancy

Teen childbearing in the United States cost taxpayers (federal, state, and local) at least $10.9 billion in 2008, according to an updated analysis released today by The National Campaign.  State costs in 2008 ranged from $16 million in North Dakota to $1.2 billion in Texas.

These public sector costs would have been considerably higher had it not been for the one-third decline in the U.S. teen birth rate between 1991 and 2008.  The estimated national savings to taxpayers in 2008 alone due to the substantial decline in the teen birth rate between 1991 and 2008 is $8.4 billion—ranging from $3.4 million in Wyoming to $1.4 billion in California.

“Reducing teen pregnancy not only improves the well-being of children, youth, and families, it saves taxpayer dollars,” said Sarah Brown, CEO of The National Campaign to Prevent teen and Unplanned Pregnancy.  “At a time when policymakers and others are intensely focused on cost-saving measures, funding proven efforts to reduce teen pregnancy is important, timely, and should be a high priority.”

The new analysis updates research originally conducted by Saul Hoffman, Ph.D. of the University of Delaware and released by The National Campaign in 2006.  The new analysis provides a conservative estimate of the costs of teen childbearing and is based on the increased risk of adverse consequences faced by teen mothers, fathers, and their children as compared to mothers having children at ages 20-21, controlling for many other factors.

Please visit www.TheNationalCampaign.org/costs for more information about the public costs of teen childbearing, including a one-page summary of the data, state-specific fact sheets and press releases for all 50 states the District of Columbia, ideas for how to use the data in your community, ideas on what policymakers can do, and a recorded webinar explaining the data.

DR. PHIL: "A Teen's Pregnancy"

Sunday, May 29th, 2011

FREE Teleclass on June 8, 2011 – Parenting Your Pregnant Teen

Tuesday, May 10th, 2011

A 5 Step approach to creating Powerful Partnerships: Parents and Pregnant teens working together to create a lasting legacy.This class is perfect for parents of pregnant teens or parents concerned their teen might be at risk for an unplanned pregnancy.

There are many resources available to pregnant teens, but very few available to help the parents who are living through this very trying time. On this call you will have the opportunity to learn about the resources available to you as concerned parent  and where to find them.

In addition, what you can do as a  parent to open up the lines of communication with your teen. What the steps are to moving forward once you have accepted the fact that there is a new leaf about to unfold in your household.

And answers to some of your big questions, like how you fit in and what your options are as a  parent and possible grandparent.

To sign up for the FREE teleclass, click here to register. The teleclass is scheduled for June 8, 2011 at 11:00am PST.

The Benefits of a Coach and Mentor for a Pregnant Teen

Monday, May 2nd, 2011

It helps to have an objective person guide you and your family through your decision-making process. Sometimes, when we have difficult choices to make, we’d like to avoid the subject. Many times it takes another person to force us to look at the important issues.

Here at Legacy 4 Kids we are specially trained to assist you in making arrangements for your best possible care and to help you prepare for your future. We are unbiased and we do not have an agenda.

At Legacy 4 Kids you will find people who care about your well-being and that of your baby. We are called counselors, coaches or advocates. Your chats with one of us will provide a way for you to talk through solutions. Out of care and concern, we will give you the opportunity to take a look at your situation and the changes you want to make for a happier future. A counselor can also help you gauge your readiness for parenting. She can give you insight, provide a list of helpful resources and lend you moral support. Just as important, she can serve as a mediator between you and your parents, or between you and your baby’s father.

Depending on your needs, assistance can be provided for obtaining financial aid, medical care, prenatal and childbirth education and — if necessary — housing, maternity clothes and transportation.

It is also advisable that your parents are included in or get counseling as well. There are many excellent reasons why they should talk with an objective professional. A counselor can help to resolve negative feelings like guilt, anger, denial and frustration. She can also help them to be honest with you in terms of what you can and cannot expect from them.

Most parents are too close to the problem to be objective. Counseling can provide your mother and father with the tools to “back off” and allow you to come to your own decision. A trained professional could steer them toward letting go of some of the responsibility. She could assist your parents toward being alert to your needs, yet also help establish the fact that they are not responsible for the choice you make concerning the baby.

It may be hard for your parents to cope with their daughter’s growing up so quickly. If your mom has protected and sheltered you all her life, it’s going to be pretty hard for her to suddenly take off on a shopping trip with you to buy maternity clothes. But counseling can help her and your father work through the upset, confused feelings they may be experiencing.

If you or your parents would like to consider working with me as your mentor and coach, please contact me directly at Legacy 4 Kids and you can book an FREE no cost PRIVATE consultation.