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Danielle LaPorte – Meet Her, Then Introduce Your Daughter to Her Today!

Thursday, June 21st, 2012

the grand pep talk – By Danielle LaPorte

Monday, June 4th, 2012

the grand pep talk: decide to rise (refer to this when in doubt, or sick & tired.)

I’m all for mental health days. And gentleness. And I think the world should take the month of December off. And for the love of God, a 4 day work week would revolutionize the collective human spirit and thusly, healthcare. But this pep talk isn’t about taking it easy, this is about another form of self care: doing whatever it takes.

Just got dumped? Lace up your runners and move your body.
Under the weather? Go in to work any way, wearing your favorite sweater.
Up to your earrings in deadlines? Go cheer on your friend. Show up at the bake sale. Call your mother.
Crying before show time? Put some tea bags on your eyes. Say a prayer. Enter stage left.

Push. Turn up the volume. Go hard. Go harder.
Re-prioritize your aches and pains.
Infuse your sensitivities with courage.
Tell fear to fuck right the fuck off.
Devote to Done.

There are soul-justified reasons to cancel. There are times to just stop. This isn’t one of them. Keep going. Show up. Full on. Full tilt. Full out. Decide to be one of those people who pull it off.

Do what you say you’re going to do.
Don’t let us down.
Decide to rise.

Why decide to rise? Not for the reasons you might think. In fact, these are the reasons that will make you sick and tired:

Do not rise out of obligation. Do not rise because of feared consequences. Do not rise because you think being tough makes you smarter (it doesn’t.)

Decide to rise because you want to expand — your being, your life, your possibilities.

Decide to rise because super powers are meant to be activated and applied in everyday life.

Decide to rise to explore your place in the universe.

On the other side of deciding to rise is illumination, ecstasy, insight. And the angel of your strength is there waiting, smiling, applauding, with a goblet of endorphins for you. Drink up.

When you transcend circumstances you get special privileges. You get evidence that you are indeed amazing, and irrefutable proof that what your heart and mind choose is what matters. And you get the deep knowing that life wants you to win.

Decide to rise.

Lean in. Listen up. Closely.
It’s your soul speaking and she says,
Get UP! I need you. I want you. I am you. Choose me.
Lean in. Listen up. Closely.

Decide to rise.

To Learn more about Danielle LaPorte click this link!

Fostering Resiliency In Our Kids – by Elle Victoria-Vasquez

Wednesday, March 28th, 2012

Fostering resiliency in our kids is a gift that never becomes outdated. Outdated are the, once
perceived, notions that idealized childhood as happy-go-lucky times where kids could be
protected from the adversities, traumas, anxieties and fears (real or imagined). We can’t always
fix or solve crisis and often the only choice that we really have is how to respond. With this in
mind, isn’t wonderful that resiliency, with its protective and adaptive qualities, can be taught and
built up? Your children will gain skills to better adapt, manage stress, anxiety, uncertainty.

Remember, resiliency is not a trait or a genetic pre-disposition; it is a skill that can be developed
and cultivated. We have the power to grow our children, tweens and teens into healthy resilient
adults by developing their metal muscles now. There are many ways that can help your child
face crisis. Here are 4 sure ways of begin the process of building up your child, tween or teen’s
mental muscle, right in the process of life.

1. Create opportunities for your child, tween and teen to succeed.

No longer are the small communities where we once competed in 4H clubs and high school
science projects and could feel like we were unique and had special skills. With the social media
and the internet any child can search a topic and find countless outlier prodigies with fantastic
and accomplished projects and acclaim. In the mind of a child this can be difficult. So what can
we do about that? Think about what our kid’s natural strengths and talents are (not what they
can learn or put on a college application necessarily). Identify 2 or 3 and begin regularly creating
opportunities where we know that our children’s odds for success are great. Start small, keep it
simple, make it regular and fun. Most importantly, be the one who notices and praises your child.
They are never too old to succeed; older kids can easily be a part of the planning and creating
process.

In times of crisis your child will have the confidence that, even though they have not
encountered this particular challenge before, they have conquered enough to know that they can
make good decisions and succeed.

2. Cultivate healthy relationships with peers, extended family and/or chosen family as
much as possible.

Kids are not born with a natural knowledge of how to make friends and nurture family
relationships. They pick up information along the way from you, media and other people at
school. It’s a crap shoot. Have a time of self-reflection; ask yourself, “How might a child perceive
my own friendships and family nurturing behaviors?” Then ask your child what s/he sees. Talk
about friendships, not as finding that small group or one best friend but as a lifelong process that
builds networks of good friends and family ties that are nurtured. Make sure your kids interact
regularly with healthy adults, grandparents, coaches, extra-curricular teachers, relatives, youth
pastors and the like. Teach them basic manners (greeting, eye contact, thank you/your welcomes,
etc.), manners build self-esteem and confidences that help your kids interact. Help your children
cultivate real interest in other’s lives and not just see others as people who can do something for
them. Start small and simple and make it regular and fun.

In times of crisis your child has the network of family and friends to choose from and turn to. They will have the confidence to speak to other necessary adults and professionals.

3. Teach and encourage “healthy helping,” reflection and gratitude.

Feeling like you have a purpose and make a difference is a powerful antidote to helplessness.
Empower your kids by engaging them in age appropriate volunteer work. Start small,
keep it simple and close to home. Great resources are helping the elderly in your family or
neighborhood. Talk to your place of worship or schools about opportunities there. Whatever
you do, don’t miss out on the opportunity to talk about the experience without judgment. Move
the conversation toward gratitude and “a good thing” and “a not so good thing” that your child
thought about their experience.

In times of crisis your child will have an expanded understanding about things that happen in
life even to good people. S/he will be less likely to feel singled out, alone or “cursed.” An added
bonus is that your youngster will have a natural faith in the helpfulness and availability of others
which will build hope in them.

4. Breaking down and dissecting

Talk about the future with your kids. “What do you think about your future?” How do you
see yourself in 10 years?” Listen. Pick a reasonable goal and break it down into as small
pieces as you both can. Start small, keep it simple and make it fun. Think parts and pieces.
Plot out the behaviors that are needed to do each step in attaining the goal. Teach your child
to deliberately dismantle tasks and tackle in steps. Always repeat phrases like, “What is the
next best step? What’s possible to do right now?” Moving toward that goal – even if it’s a tiny
step – and receiving praise for doing so will train your child to naturally focus on what s/he has
accomplished rather than on what has to be done or is not done. Acknowledge, acknowledge,
acknowledge. We can’t change the fact that highly stressful events happen, but we can change
how we interpret and respond to these events.

In times of crisis your child will be able to break down and dissect the big challenge, into
manageable pieces. They will understand that not everything can be done immediately. They will
ask themselves, “What is the next best step I can do?”

You can reach Elle at Elle@Legacy4Kids.com

“Not My Daughter”

Wednesday, March 7th, 2012

 

My Good Girl

Yes, I said it too. No parent expects for their princess to get into any trouble. They are good kids, we are good parents. Why on earth should you worry about Internet safety, bullies, drugs or alcohol abuse?

Well let me explain the simple why:

Because we are not with our kids 24 hours a day. They are not extensions of ourselves. They are individuals with independent minds. They are living in a world today that we could not even imagined when we were a pre-teen or teen. They have access to so much and they are expected to make choices and decisions each and everyday. Some of these decisions they are not yet ready to make. They simply do not have the cognitive skills or the experience. But they think they do. They see TV, they chat with friends, they have access to a computer, they have teachers, coaches, siblings and parents of friends they rely on for guidance.

But wait, what are they learning from these outside sources? Shouldn’t they be learning the how and the why from a trusted parent or guardian? ABSOLUTELY!

Yes, I always said ” My little girl will never get in trouble. She has good grades and comes from a great home with no drugs or alcohol abuse.” Well, I was WRONG! She did get into trouble, a lot of trouble. She is still suffering today.

I was sure my daughter had good values and knew right from wrong.  She went to a good school. We lived in a very affluent neighborhood. We lived in the finest of places, La Jolla, CA, Healdsburg, CA and Napa California.  My kids should be safe.  But no. Not all parents are like you or me…I didn’t take enough time to get to know them well enough.  I was working and not paying enough attention. Because of this my little 15 year old princess was introduced to a life of drugs. By her friends MOM!  My daughter decided I was no fun, too strict and was entirely too serious. Her friends mom was a lot more fun.  This led to so much more pain and anguish before I found out about it.

The fall out has been nothing short of retched. My daughter is now 27 and still working on learning how to put her life back together all due to some very bad choices she made as a teen. Today I dedicate myself to you parents. I tell my story to make a difference in a young women’s life and her families. I look for other parenting experts to help me help you. I am on a mission to give our young girls the proper tools to stand up and be our future adults living their lives without chaos, anger or pain. Won’t you help me?

Learn how here!

Powerful Girl Program, the free recording

Thursday, September 29th, 2011

Our Crises Prevention expert Jill Hope created this program. Though the call has passed, you can still sign up for the free recording. It is packed with helpful content. Here is the direct link to sign up for the call: Powerful Girl Program.

Learn more by reading the post below!

 

Have you been wishing your daughter was more comfortable in her own skin? Have you been wishing she would stop trying
to suppress who she really is just to fit in with other girls? Have you been wishing she would stop clinging to just one or two girls who may be friends with her one day, and exclude her the next, leaving her out on her own?

If your answer is yes to any of these questions, it’s time you do something about it!

Let me share with you what I know about strengthening a girl’s sense of knowing that she is good and worthy just as she is, building a foundation for increased confidence, and helping her create loving and supportive friendships with girls who appreciate her just as she is.

Every time I hear parents struggling with the issues their daughters are dealing with, it breaks my heart because there are some very simple steps you can take right away to help your daughter begin to change her experience. Every time I recommend these steps and my clients follow through, they are amazed by how simple and effective these techniques really are! That’s why I’m sharing this with you now — because I want you to know what I know to be possible for you and your daughter, and how easy it
really can be (when you know what to do).

Here’s the reality: The situation isn’t going to change by itself.

Isn’t it about time you stopped wishing for change, and instead took responsibility right now for creating the change you desire to see for your daughter? Then, I invite you to join me on a special complimentary teleseminar…

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“Secrets of the Powerful Girl
Within:  Building Confidence,
Self-Acceptance, and Inner Strength in Girls”

with Jill Hope

Tuesday, September 13, 2011 at 9pm Eastern / 8pm Central / 6pm Pacific

Lines are
filling up quickly….reserve yours now
Click Here.

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On this complimentary 30-minute call you’ll learn…

The  qualities that confident girls have in common (and that many girls today  lack)

  • A  powerful yet simple exercise to help your daughter build  self-appreciation and confidence
  • The  one secret weapon every girl possesses to change her situation, but few  are aware of
  • What  every parent MUST do to support and cultivate strong self-esteem in her daughter
  • The role self-responsibility plays in helping girls feel confident and empowered, even during challenges.
  • Exciting  details on my brand new “Powerful Girl Within Program” which will lay out for you, step-by-step,
    how to build a foundation that will help your daughter cultivate the confidence, self-acceptance, and inner strength that will to allow her to  fully express herself and be accepted by her peers
  • This truly is a call for anyone responsible for raising, influencing, or  supporting girls. There really is no better time than NOW, at the start of the school year, to use my simple secrets that will help your daughter gain the confidence and self-assuredness she needs to create authentic friendships and express the fullness of who she is.

    Take the first step toward improving this situation today. Reserve your spot here

    Save Your Daughter Without Instilling Fear or Negative Thoughts

    Tuesday, September 6th, 2011

    All Grown Up Already?

    Is she my baby or is she a young woman? It is hard to define in this current world we live in. Our kids are subjected to so much so soon. Even the Disney Channel is confusing these days.

    If you are a struggling mom, grandmother, aunt or friend of a young girl ages 4-16 I am sure you can see the dilemmas. It is so difficult to chat with our kids about all of the issues they are facing.

    When I was a teen the world was smaller. Still scary, but a whole bunch smaller. Porn mags and strangers were the enemy. Now – there is a reason for us to fear for our children while they are in our own homes right in front of us.

    The computers are giving them access to a complete world out there. We need to know and have systems in place to be sure they are not in danger while we parents are cooking dinner or watching the news. Speaking of the news…TURN IT OFF if your little ones are in the room. It is scary, negative and trite at times. If they are not talking about war, economic and cataclysmic issues they are following the Kardashians lives or Lyndsey Lohan’s latest escapades. Your little girl does NOT need to know this. That “NEED TO KNOW” thing is important people!  What are you filling her head with? Just as important as what your are feeding her little body is what you are feeding her mind! Think about it.

    What do they need to know? Check out our very important informational event here and find out how to keep our young ones safe. It is FREE to listen in.

    I wish my parents would of listened to a program when I was growing up. My life would of been a whole lot different with a lot less chaos.

    Listen to our latest Radio Show – Escape Teen Crisis

    Thursday, September 1st, 2011

    Listen to internet radio with Legacy 4 Kids Foundation on Blog Talk Radio

    A new inspiring video from a young tween girl! A must watch

    Wednesday, August 24th, 2011

    I loved this video. I wish all adults had this much grace and wisdom!

    Do you have plans on September 8th?

    Tuesday, August 23rd, 2011

    What If I told you that ONE (1) 90 minute teleclass could radically alter the path that your daughter decides to take in life? That by listening to it, you will learn tools and strategies to ensure that your now 4-16 year old (yes 4!) does not become another statistic or victim of:

    • Teenage pregnancy
    • Sexual abuse
    • Drug abuse
    • High-Risk behavior
    • Emotional or self-esteem problems
    • Eating disorders
    • …and more

    Well it CAN and that’s why I wanted to personally reach out and invite you to a teleclass I am hosting on September 8th entitled, “ESCAPE- 6 Steps to Preparing Girls for Success, Health and Happiness and Avoiding Teen Crisis”.

    It’s totally F*R*E*E to attend and if you have a daughter, granddaughter, nieces or you work with young girls in any capacity, this is something you won’t want to miss.

    You don’t need me, a crisis counselor, to tell you that our young girls are in trouble. The harsh realities of sex are EVERYWHERE; kids are going through puberty as young as 8, the internet puts temptations right into our living rooms and the pressure to start engaging in risky behavior starts as early as the 7th and 8th grade!

    Scary isn’t it?

    We all like to think that “these things won’t happen to my daughter,” but unfortunately, I watch these tragic scenarios play out among  “good girls” every single day, often taking the entire family by surprise.

    BUT, you can take radical steps now to make a difference!

    When you join me on September 8th for this no-charge teleclass, you will learn proven strategies and techniques that you can implement NOW, at any age, to help your daughter avoid becoming the victim of high-risk behavior and abuse.You will also learn how to approach “tough conversations” with your daughter in a way that doesn’t rob her young innocence, but subconsciously keeps her on guard from those would try.

    No matter what your cultural, social, economic or religious background is, and no matter which parenting style you use to raise your kids, you NEED this information to give your daughter the best chance of success during the pre-teen and teenage years.

    So commit to being proactive and learn the best ways to communicate and support your daughter NOW, before a crisis occurs. Start by registering for the call on this page and I’ll “see” you on the 8th.

    To your family’s success,

     

    Kelly Marquet- Bodio
    Founder and CEO, Legacy4Kids

     

    PS. Even if you can’t make the call, be sure to register anyway so I can send you a complimentary recording of the teleclass when we are through.  You can re-listen to it at your own convenience or send it to a friend who could use the strategies and information that we cover. http://www.legacy4kids.com/preview/

    Growing Yourself as a Parent

    Monday, July 4th, 2011

    “Grown-ups never understand anything for themselves, and it is tiresome

    for children to be always and forever explaining things to them.”

    —Antoine de Saint-Exupery, The Little
    Prince

    Imagine a baby shower where the guests bring a special kind
    of gift for the new parents.
    Not baby clothes. Not strollers or cribs. Not even a single
    book on child-rearing.

    The gifts for the new parents? Self-awareness, self-love and
    self-growth as a person, as well as a parent.

    The best parenting requires that we not only work to nurture
    and care for our children but that we nurture and care for ourselves.

    Parenting is one of the—if not the—most challenging jobs on
    the planet. There is the awesome responsibility of raising and guiding another
    human being, of course. But it’s the daily interactions between children and
    parents that can require almost super-human amounts of flexibility, patience
    and awareness. All the experts and all the books aren’t there when it’s your
    toddler who won’t nap, your child who stole a valued toy from his best friend,
    your depressed teen who is desperately searching for answers, your adult child
    who can’t hold down a job, or the dreaded unplanned pregnancy of your teen.

    Successful—even joyful—parenting is about listening to
    ourselves as well as listening to our children. It’s a hands-off approach that
    brings the focus back to what we are feeling and experiencing, so that we don’t
    unthinkingly rain anger and fear down upon our children. Being aware of
    ourselves helps us develop a strong “inner authority” or an intuitive sense of
    knowing what is best for us and our children in any moment. (And accepting that
    sometimes we really don’t know yet!)
    “We guide (our children) not because they have basically
    shabby motives, but because they lack the one strength most of us have:
    awareness of the world,” write authors Hugh and Gayle Prather in their book, Spiritual Parenting: A Guide to
    Understanding and Nurturing the Heart in Your Child.

    Their book calls parenting a spiritual path that helps us
    grow as people while we are helping our children grow into adults. Our children
    challenge us and if we can truly listen, we can grow.

    One of the first challenges is to understand that old
    patterns—often formed in our own childhoods—can often rule our behavior as
    parents right now. For example, if our own parents tried to fix everything that
    went wrong, we may try to do the same with our children. But our children may
    need us just to listen to their fears and not jump in with our own fears and
    try to “fix” it all.
    In the process, we allow our kids to make mistakes, and that
    means we can, too. And if we can forgive our kids and accept them in all their
    flawed glory, it can’t be too big a jump to do this for ourselves.

    As author Joyce Maynard writes, “It’s not only children who
    grow. Parents do, too. As much as we watch to see what our children do with
    their lives, they are watching us to see what we do with ours. I can’t tell my
    children to reach for the sun. All I can do is reach for it myself.”

    Author’s content used under license, © 2008 Claire
    Communications