Posts Tagged ‘anger’

Giant Burritos and Vacant Stares

Wednesday, August 15th, 2012

This is my version of fast food…Today I was in one of my favorite Mexican restaurants enjoying fish tacos and a Corona. My little break from my computer and phone is a great joy in the middle of the day. I try to get myself out there in the land of real people and connect.

As you know I am an avid foodie and a huge fan of eating right. I do not like fast food and I try to convince my readers and peeps to avoid feeding it to themselves as well as their kids. This is the closest I get…

During this little jaunt I noticed a woman and her little girl sitting at the table next to me. The woman was very much over weight as was the 5-6 year old girl sitting with her. Neither seemed to be happy. Mom was texting on her phone while the little girl just stared vacantly into the space behind her . When the server delivered the food, I was astonished at the enormous size of the portions. They had ordered burritos with extra everything. Not one but two!

As the two started to eat the mother got increasingly angry at her daughter and started to reprimand her for not eating all of her food. At one point she yelled at her ” I paid good money for this lunch and you are going to finish it!”  Now mind you, this burrito was the size of a Nerf football. HUGE! I would of split it between 3 people.

The little girl started to cry and tried to explain she wasn’t hungry anymore.  The mother would not hear it. As the little girl sat there I heard her say “I’m sorry Mom, I will finish it.”

I was in tears. This to me made me physically ill. I knew if I stepped in the little girl would get a lot of grief later after I left. I also knew that by me reporting the incident  the little one would simply be on a list because CPS would not consider this behavior life threatening. However, I DO!

Others around us were pretending not to notice.

I wanted to yell and scream at that woman who was literally poisoning her child. I wanted to smash that damn burrito directly into her face and run with the child to keep her safe from her mothers ignorance.

I didn’t. I simply looked directly into the mothers eyes as I left the restaurant. I doubt she noticed. If she did, she wouldn’t know why this behavior would leave me cold.

What would you have done. I cannot get this out of my mind!

Mean Teens and the Magic Wand

Thursday, June 21st, 2012

I wasn't born to be mean!

Recently it seems that there are so many stories in the news about teens being blatantly disrespectful and cruel. Today I see that 3 teen boys bullied a woman on a school bus to tears and no one stepped in to help or to correct them. Now I read on facebook that 3 other teen boys threatened a man and his Service Dog on a golf course with a rifle and a knife…

Why is it that kids are so angry, rude and untrustworthy?

I have been working with teens and parents for quite some time now and I have to say that it is we that are at fault. YES, not the kids here. Kids are not born mean. Some parents just don’t take parenting seriously anymore. There is little or no accountability for these kids. Parents themselves must understand that kids do and act as they are taught. They mimic what they see. Now I am not saying the parents of these kids taught or told them to act this way, but what have these kids been surrounded with. Who are their peers? What are their parents like? What do they watch on TV? What are they seeing on the computer? What the hell are the parents watching. This reality TV has become our worst nightmare. It is JUNK! Nothing inspiring just plain foul!

I hear people complaining constantly about how terrible kids are today…WELL do something about it. Stop complaining. Make a difference. Whether you are a parent or not you live on this planet. You are a functioning adult. Step up. Be a mentor to a young person. Teach them respect by being respectful. Teach them gratitude by being grateful. Teach them love by being loving. They will learn these traits from the very moment they are born. Let’s stop complaining about life. If our kids know nothing of violence, hate, anger, mistrust and foul play…they will not behave the way these boys have.

CRAP in = CRAP out. Not too difficult to understand. Children develop a conscience by the time they are 7 years old. What have they seen, heard and lived through by this time?  Trying to change it after 7 years old is difficult but not impossible. But it is so much easier to be a kind and loving adult who is responsible for your own actions. Live your life being grateful…If each one of us makes a choice to do this each and every day the kids around us may just follow suit.

Turn off the news. Turn off the negative programs. They are programming our kids as well as you! Be aware of who your kids are spending time with. What are they seeing on the computer…Who is it they follow? Break the spell.

Dream about possibilities. Allow your children to dream big. Give them an option to tell you each day about a wish they have.   Applaud them. Give them hope. Happiness is a choice. It is your choice. Show them that happiness and respect is a magic wand and they have the power to use it.

Your Echo is Your Answer

Wednesday, April 18th, 2012

So often we wonder why we as mothers are struggling so much to make our point. Why is it our families are not listening to us unless we are yelling at the top of our lungs and we make it clear we are finally pissed off!

We are unhappy, overwhelmed, stressed, depressed and we are exhausted. Why?

Here is a quick audio that will explain what I have learned over the past 25 years working with teens and parents.

Let me know your thoughts.